'Music and Lyrics'

Sophie Fisher: A melody is like seeing someone for the first time. The physical attraction. Sex.
Alex Fletcher: I so get that.
Sophie Fisher: But then, as you get to know the person, that's the lyrics. Their story. Who they are underneath. It's the combination of the two that makes it magical.
~ A profound scene from the movie “Music and Lyrics”

How I wish, finding a partner was as simple as a melody and lyrics. The initial period of knowing each other is always ecstatically beautiful. A faultless phase which makes us falls in love with everything that the other person says or does. We are just so thrilled by conversing and spending time with the person that everything the partner does has the potential to make you happy.

However, as time passes and feelings seem to subside, suddenly we start to sense the change and see the flaws.

Why has the partner changed? - we wonder.

Probably, the partner hasn't changed at all…it's just that we are now able to see the other person more rationally, rather than through the blinding love shades. Petty stuffs start to look important and we resort to blame-game. It is highly possible to hurt one another with wounding remarks.

I have grown up reading romance novels and have always dreamt of a perfect relationship with my perfect guy in a perfect place as a perfect family.

Is there a possibility of real love? Sure there is.

When you can face your partner’s flaws and shortfalls, and still love in spite of…and sometimes even for it!

It would be a lie if I say that I was not expecting for a perfect guy. After all, I had been waiting all these years to be in a relationship, and I have had all this time to think about what my perfect guy would be like. To mention a few, he should always be sensitive to my feelings, know exactly what to say in every situation and have the ability to melt my heart each time we are together.

I am ready to reconcile my expectations, as many of these can, and probably will, be adjusted over time. I am not sweating over insignificant stuff anymore. I am creating room for him in my life now. Instead of analyzing the flaws, I focus on how they will complement my own.

Many of my friends can make me laugh harder than my partner; however the ways he connected with me was what made me choose him. Feeling the connection was far higher on my priority list. Differences will be discovered after marriage but ‘agreeing to disagree’ is all what it will take to be happy in a relationship.

At the end, I desire each other's company and to be able to connect easily when we are together. My fiancé may not be perfect, but he's close-to-perfect.

I hope to approach my new relationship in a simple way –“Don't hide behind a list of expectations. God may desire to give you something you weren't anticipating. Allow space (and grace) for Him to reveal His best to you.” ~ Bible